comes this Neil Cavuto article
in which he's lambasted for holding a door open for a woman.
"Do I look paralyzed to you?" she asked.
I was so taken aback that I didn't know what to say, or even what she was saying herself.
She went on to explain how I had just earlier stepped out of her way on the elevator to let her off.
I just assumed it was the gentlemanly thing to do. I guess I'm a bit old fashioned. But she was not and she clearly wasn't into "gentlemanly."
She went onto explain the door thing was part and parcel of a bigger thing: An attempt by men, she said, to make women feel like they're lesser.
Cavuto then asks:
So let me ask you, ladies: Do you find it offensive when some big klutz like me opens a door that I'm patronizing you, or, in the case of this young woman, "offending" you?
This woman needs to step down off her feminista soap box and look at gestures like door opening in the larger context of common courtesy.
Would the woman be so offended if another female held the door open for her? Or would she accuse that female of being a traitor to her gender?
I try, even when faced with the rudest of rude people, to keep my level of courtesy towards my fellow human beings on high. Maybe the idea was ingrained in my head back in the 70's when there were signs dotting every Long Island road that said "courtesy is contagious." Or maybe I was just brought up right. You hold doors open for people. You let people off the elevator before you get on. You allow cars to merge. You say please
and thank you
and after you
because that's how civilized people behave.
Yet there are women who feel coddled and like lesser beings when someone - in particular a male someone - extends a courtesy to them. I can't imagine the size of the stick that needs to be up one's ass in order to feel slighted by an act of politeness. It must be painful to walk around like that all day. And I wonder what the same woman would think if a man walked into a store in front of her and let the door just close behind him - she would probably tell him that he's insensitive to the needs of women and is therefore a misogynist.
You can't win with people like that. You're either making them feel like puny humans or you're being condescending by trying to not
make them feel like puny humans. If having a door held open for you makes you feel weak, then I suggest you have some deep-rooted problems in regards to male figures and your militant feminism is only going to exacerbate your already seething hatred towards the male species. Here's their core belief:
Men are evil.
Men who are nice are even more evil because they are only being nice in order to subjugate you.
See, by being courteous to you, they are keeping you down. It is one of the things men talk about at their yearly Keep Women In The Kitchen conference, where they teach guys how to smile, extend a hand, carry packages, open doors, pull out chairs, buy flowers and say complimentary things to women in a concerted effort at undermining the self image of every single female on the planet by making them feel weak and helpless.
Ah, but what about those of us who like when guys smile, open doors and pull out chairs? What about us women who don't view every compliment as a sexist put down? What about those of us who don't hate
Women like the one Cavuto encountered believe they are doing all women a favor when they act like such boors. They're championing their own cause and furthering their own agenda and they think they're doing it for me
. For you
. For anyone who has a vagina.
Don't do me any favors. I love common courtesy. Whether it's done by a man or a woman doesn't matter. The fact that there are polite people willing to show me some courtesy in a world full of assholes
makes me smile
. If these women want to present themselves as victims of oppression, then more power to them and their martyrdom. But I wish they would keep it to themselves. They're going to ruin it for the rest of us.