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I thought I'd seen everything. I thought I was jaded and nothing I would read would surprise me anymore. Guess not.
Via Michelle Malkin
, I just read this story
in the New York Times about a woman, Amy Richards, who got pregnant, found out she was having triplets and nonchalantly decided to abort two of them because:
bq. I'm going to have to move to Staten Island. I'll never leave my house because I'll have to care for these children. I'll have to start shopping only at Costco and buying big jars of mayonnaise. Even in my moments of thinking about having three, I don't think that deep down I was ever considering it.
This is a professional, secure woman with a long term boyfriend who willingly went off the pill.
bq. My immediate response was, I cannot have triplets. I was not married; I lived in a five-story walk-up in the East Village; I worked freelance; and I would have to go on bed rest in March. I lecture at colleges, and my biggest months are March and April. I would have to give up my main income for the rest of the year. There was a part of me that was sure I could work around that. But it was a matter of, Do I want to?
I was not married
. That didn't seem to phase her when she went off the pill knowing full well that she could get pregnant.
There was a part of me that was sure I could work around that. But it was a matter of, Do I want to?
What a self absorbed woman she is. She has three babies living inside her. She was able to hear all three heartbeats.
When we saw the specialist, we found out that I was carrying identical twins and a stand alone. My doctors thought the stand alone was three days older. There was something psychologically comforting about that, since I wanted to have just one.
Psychologically comforting or perhaps a little bit of justification? Well, the "stand alone" came first so it's only fair that we let him live and kill off his siblings.
Oh, my gosh, there are three heartbeats. I can't believe we're about to make two disappear.
And they were going to make those heartbeats disappear because this woman didn't want to become the archetypical suburban mom, shopping at Costco and living out of the city.
On the subway, Peter asked, ''Shouldn't we consider having triplets?'' And I had this adverse reaction: ''This is why they say it's the woman's choice, because you think I could just carry triplets. That's easy for you to say, but I'd have to give up my life.''
So, hey. Why not just give up the life of two of them? You've got three, some are expendable, right? I'm pro-choice and this is completely revolting to me.
When you become a mother, you give up your life whether you have one, three or five children at a time. Motherhood is a selfless thing. Your life belongs to your child. Or children. Is one child better than three because you'll have to buy less mayonnaise?
My sister cannot have children of her own. She went through hell
to get the child she has now, my beautiful nephew. Reading stories like the one above leave me seething. How many women out there are struggling to conceive and this woman just throws two babies away because she doesn't want to change her lifestyle?
My friend Debbie has triplets. Two beautiful girls and a gorgeous boy. Debbie works, goes out with friends and does not buy mayonnaise in bulk. But her life does belong to those kids and she wouldn't have it any other way. Because she had to undergo years of fertility treatments and experience several miscarriages before she gave birth to her children. And here's someone who just willingly gave up two babies because she's a selfish prig. Could she not have made the choice to give the twins up for adoption? Or perhaps she didn't want the inconvenience of doctor's ordered bed rest getting in the way of her lifestyle. Perfectly good reason to abort, right?
I would do the same thing if I had triplets again, but if I had twins, I would probably have twins. Then again, I don't know.
Please, Miss Richards, do me a favor. Don't breed again. Don't take the chance that there will be two more babies you'll discard because you don't have the time nor the inclination to care for them. Please don't slap every infertile couple in the face by flaunting the fact that you think those heartbeats were expendable.
Why Amy Richards decided to tell her story to the New York Times is beyond me. Why the New York Times saw fit to print this awful tale of selfishness, I don't know. Richards should be ashamed of the choice she made. She knowingly took the chance of getting pregnant and then bailed out when it looked like she bit off more than she can chew. I wonder if some day she'll tell her son that he had two siblings but she killed them because she was afraid of becoming a soccer mom?
This story left me literally crying. The heartlessness of Amy Richards, and the obvious fact that she doesn't see anything wrong with her decision and the NYT telling this story to the world is really a sad, sad comment on today's society.
Listen, I know people do things like this all the time. And I know that sometimes people have to choose options like this for medical reasons. But the fact that Richards decided to tell the world her story as if she's making some kind of statement is just appalling.
I pity Amy Richards. I hope at some point in her life she looks back on what she did and the way in which she did it and she feels some sense of remorse.
But I doubt that will happen.
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Update: There's some speculation that this may be a hoax or satire, based on some people speculating that the Amy Richards in the article is this Amy Richards
(based on the articles Ms. Richards "I lecture at colleges" statement - it seems that's what the former editor of Ms. Amy Richards does also. She also lives in New York City). If so, the New York Times has sunk to a new low. They either willingly played along or were taken for a ride by not fact checking.
Honestly, I hope it is
a hoax. That would be the lesser evil of the two.
: This is not a satire:
Allah did some digging around
and discovered that the Amy Richards in question is, indeed, uber feminist Amy Richards. He notes this paragraph by Amy's feminista sidekick Jennifer Baumgarten in the Nation:
bq. If abortion were connected to actual women--people like my friend Amy Richards, who had an abortion at 18 and a selective reduction last year when she found she was pregnant with triplets, or Nancy Flynn, who was a single mom finishing her BA at Cornell when she had an abortion and who told me she would "never have been able to have the rich life I've had and help my son as much as I have if I'd been the single mother of two children"--perhaps the mounting restrictions wouldn't pass so handily.
So there you have it. This Amy Richards
is that Amy Richards and hers is a true story. Sad, but true.
And maybe she likes to call it selective reduction because it makes it sound oh so clinical and detached. I call it selective abortion. Let's call a spade a spade, Amy.
No wonder Amy didn't want to live the soccer mom lifestyle. It would have killed her feminist credentials.