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Father's Day

Previous tributes: My father. Also here (from 6/01). Grandpa Joe Grandpa Al That's DJ with Justin, from Father's Day last year. It's taken some time, but my husband has finally found his step-parenting groove. And the kids have found their step-child groove (I guess you can say I warmed them up for their father's fiancee). Happy Father's Day to all the dads out there. Don't forget you have to wear whatever silly ties your kids buy you.

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Silly tie? My kids know better :) I got the Something About Mary DVD.

We have certain traditions on Father's Day. I don't suggest anyone repeat them.

1. I basically cannot figure out what I want for Father's Day, so I don't ask for anything. Frankly, I find it difficult to want anything, as I have been so blessed and already have quite a lot of stuff, thanks.

It frustrates the family no end, but they come through with nice gewgaws anyway, which is appreciated.

2. I listen to a sermon at church which basically says, "Happy Father's Day, now here's how you should be a better dad."

Is it me, or am I the only one who wonders why the church chooses the day we are celebrating fathers to by and large remind them what an imperfect job they are doing (no one is doing a perfect job)? I predicted that's what the sermon would be about (to the everloving and everlasting exasperation of the wife and daughter who just roll their eyes kindly at me when I say so).

WE KNOW, more than anyone ever hopes to know, how lousy we really are compared to the Heavenly Father. Can we have one day where we aren't reminded of that? No, because today is the day that we are CERTAIN to be reminded of it.

Sigh.

3. We eat out, and I buy. Mrs. was actually going to buy this year (again, I have pointed out over the years how when we eat out for my birthday, and the like, that I buy anyway; I just find it interesting). So what happens: we get to the parking spot, and she finds out she left her purse at home. We have a great laugh, and I buy again.

Now we start working on the
grandkid(s). One so far.

4. I get a framed picture that makes me cry (if not today, Christmas or birthday or someday).

If it's not a picture of my parents (long gone), or my kids, it's (this year) of me and my grandson with the word "Grandfather" embossed underneath.

Sob.

I really hope (except for the sermons) that this never changes. Isn't this what Dads are supposed to do?

Being a Dad is not about getting. It's not about being provided for. It's one of the few things I like to think I get pretty consistently right.

There's more to being a Dad than giving, but it's not a bad thing to be known for.

Give to God first, Mom second, the kids third (including grandkids), the work fourth, and so on down the line.

And pray it all turns out correctly.

I will second Ed's remarks re the general theme on Father's Day. Mother's Day is marked with sermons on "the important role of mothers in our lives", while FD is always marked with sermons on "how you, as a father, are not living up to the standard God has set for you, and here's what you can do to improve." Frankly, I'm rather sick of it.

I passed by a church up our street the other day, and I can't remember the blurb on the marquee now, but it was pretty much along the lines of the theme described above. And I thought, "Why bother celebrating Father's Day if all you're going to do is hammer us about what a rotten job we're making of it?" It goes hand-in-hand with TV commercials that portray Dad as an insensitive, clueless goofball...another sign that our culture is basically down on fatherhood.

I did, however, get a Trogdor bumper sticker, which beats the heck out of a tie any day.

BTW Michele, thanks for saying something positive about dads. I don't mean to sound like a whiner, and I appreciate your tributes to the important men in your life.