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Dedication #6: Primary Depression Songs

This post brought to you by the Victory Coalition: Where quantity is job one! Two generous donors to the SOA/CV cause requested - in return for their donations - lists. I'll handle these things one a time. First up: Name the five most depressing songs you know. Not songs that are depressing in nature, but are depressing to you. I am the queen of depressing songs, ranging all the way back to my youth when I spent several days crying that Billy Joe McAllister jumped off the Tallahatchee Bridge. Of course, I didn't know Billy Jo personally (ok, so I thought he was real at the time), so that makes the song a secondary depression song, meaning that I am getting all morose over someone else's problems. Primary depression songs are a different animal. They don't even have to be sad - they just have to remind one of of a really sad time in your life, like when mother said your kitty died but then you find out that she sold it to some Korean restaurant for ten dollars. Mostly PD songs are the ones you had on repeat for days on end while you curled up on your bedroom floor and swore that you would never, ever love again. I wasn't even a teenager when I did that. It was like....six years aog and was the result of a horrible communication mix up which is a story that I may tell someday if you ask nicely, but ended up ok because I'm married to him now, but nonetheless, I can't listen to Stabbing Westward's Darkest Days albums without getting that "oh god, I'm gonna throw up my heart" feeling. Five really depressing songs: * Stabbing Westward: Everything I Touch. Ok, the whole album is a therapist's wet dream - but this song in particular makes me sob uncontrollably. Well, it did. Now I listen to it and I just want to smack Chris Hall across the face and say "grow the fuck up, man! Get over it, already!" Because I think he was pining over the same girl for years and if the songs are any indication, she was one of them C-word girl. And then Chris and the band went and made another album after Darkest Days and, well....does that saying quit while you're ahead ring a bell? Holy suckage, Batman. And that's just another reason why this song is so depressing - it marked the end of a really good band and the start of a really sucky one. * Nine Inch Nails - The Great Below (you thought I was gonna say Hurt, right?) * Radiohead- Fake Plastic Trees Just can't explain this one away with a specific incident or even lyric. It just depressing. Beautifully depressing. * Lynyrd Skynyrd - Tuesday's Gone. Shut up. * Sarah McLachlan - Possession You really don't want to go there. Not unless you want to hear a long story about friendship, devotion, death and the Green Bay Packers. It's not a story I feel like telling right now. Honorable mentions (which I will add to as I think of them): Jane's Addiction - Three Days. Have no fear, your Prozac is here. Next up: Funny songs and Feel Good Songs. The lovely SOA contributor asks that you all tell us your most depressing songs as well (or make fun of mine - I swear, that's what the email said) - my only caveat would be that they be Primary Depression Songs, not just sad songs.


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Gypsies, Tramps, and Thieves by Cher was playing on the radio when my Dad and I took two puppies and their mom to be put to sleep.

I don't like this game. Hurry up with the funny songs!

Actually, Johnny Cash's version of "Hurt" always puts me in a down mood.

In no particular order--

"Two Suns in the Sunset," Pink Floyd, The Final Cut.

"It Doesn't Matter," Depeche Mode, Some Great Reward.

"Untitled," The Cure, Disintegration (although really, nearly the whole album should qualify).

"Julia," The Beatles, The Beatles.

"God Give Me Strength," Elvis Costello, Grace of My Heart soundtrack.

"Twelfth Night," Gin Blossoms, the only good album the Gin Blossoms ever made because it was before they kicked out Doug Hopkins and he subsequently blew his brains out, and oh, let's not get me started on that one.

For some reason the last one's associated in my mind with my grandfather's death, which makes no sense seeing as how the song has nothing to do with anything like that. The mind is a funny thing.

The rest all have to do with what you called the "oh god, I'm gonna throw up my heart" feeling. I'm totally stealing that line. That is exactly what it feels like.

"Don't Let It End" - Styx. Fuck you, Lori Levin.

"Old Lang Syne" - Dan Fogelberg. Fuck you, Lori Levin.

"Romeo and Juliet" - Indigo Girls. Fuck you, Emily Bowman.

Wow. I love "The Great Below".

But the song that I listen to when I need to lay down on the floor and cry would be "Pain in my Heart" by Otis Redding.

Or "Gold Dust" by Tori Amos. That was the last song that grabbed me from behind and before I knew it, I was crying uncontrollably.

Depressing songs? Anything by Oingo Boingo, to my great dismay--according to my wife. I love that group, and I love listening to their music. But it invariably sends my wife spiraling into a depressive funk. So I have to listen to it on headphones. sigh

All the songs that have the most profound effect on me are written by Bruce Springsteen.

The entire album "Nebraska" is infused with unspeakable sadness, but the most affecting song on the album, for me, is Highway Patrolman.

Another Springsteen song that gives me chills every time I hear it is Racing In The Street, from Darkness On The Edge Of Town.

Both of these are truly haunting songs whose bleakness is leavened only by the incredible beauty of the music.

The entire Violent Femmes album. It's weird because it's depressing and uplifting at the same time... I can be totally bummed, listen to that album and be like "it wasn't nearly THAT bad..." or I can be having an awesome day, "blister in the sun" comes on the radio or pops into my head or for some insane reason, I "pop" it into the CD player (don't ask why, but I do that sometimes) and it totally ruins the entire day...

I wore out three copies of that tape in high school.... and I've gone through two CD's since. Well, to be fair, a girl lifted the first one from me back before I was happily wedded.

it's one of those I love it/I hate it things.

oh and ANYTHING by either Morrisey or The Cure.

The soundtrack to my nervous breakdown in college, in order of appearance:
- Nine Inch Nails: "Gave Up"
- Sunshot: "Stop Me"
- the Cure: "Same Deep Water As You"
- Swervedriver: "Duress"

and finally...
- Smashing Pumpkins: "Today"

I've been avoiding depressing songs for a long time so I have to think back:

Whole albums by:

Suzanne Vega (Her first album & Solitude Standing ... songs like Fancy Poultry, Lucas, Cracking, Night vision)

Pink Floyd (welcome to the machine etc.)

Radio Head (too dark to even listen to)

You can tell I stayed away from really dark stuff.

There are dark songs that are just too good to depress you like:

Bill Withers "Ain't no sunshine when she's gone"


James Taylor "Fire and rain" (Yeah I expect to be mocked for JT, but I've loved that song since I was 10)

Azure Ray: "Don't make a sound"

All my choices would have to be reminders of something.

"Tomorrow"- Morrissey (a girl)

"The Dance" Garth Brooks (same girl)

"Pictures of You"- The Cure (different girl)

"That Girl Could Sing"- Jackson Browne (second girl)

"Oh Sherrie"- Steve Perry (yet another girl... yes, her name was Sherrie)

Geez, just writing the list is depressing... Let's move on to the happy songs...

"Find the Cost of Freedom" (CSN&Y) is pretty depressing to me. I had it and a few others on a loop as I got drunk for the last time, many years back.

"The Gambler" will usually get me. It was played at my Nanny's (grandmother's) funeral. Sometimes I'm able to just enjoy the song, but if I think about it at all I'll usually start crying.

There's a couple on Dido's first CD that'll get me too. "Slide" especially. Because I know exactly where it's coming from, and I don't want to go back there.

"Meeting Across the River" Bruce Springsteen. This track from Born to Run is the bleakest song I have ever heard.

When I hear the following songs I can't turn the dial fast enough, because they remind me of my EX-wife!

"Angie" by the Rolling Stones
"The Search is Over" by Survivor
"Release Me" (and EVERY SONG) by Engelbert Humperdink!

"Keep on Loving You," Reo Speedwagon. Screw you Julia!

"The River", Bruce Springsteen.

I've blocked out so many depressing songs. I can't remember what I listened to most of the time as I wallowed in my misery. I remember the wallowing though.