First they came for our Christmas season and turned it into an anti-consumer holiday. I just laughed.
Next, they came for Columbus Day and turned it into a day to feel picked on and left out. I just laughed.
Then they came for Thanksgiving and Easter and made them into animal activist events. And yes, I just laughed.
Now they are coming for Valentineís Day and with that, they are coming for your vagina.
I am not laughing.
V-Day is a global movement to stop violence against women and girls. V-Day is a palpable energy, a fierce catalyst that promotes creative events to increase awareness, raise money, and revitalize the spirit of existing anti-violence organizations. V-Day generates broader attention for the fight to stop worldwide violence against women and girls including rape, battery, incest, female genital mutilation (FGM), and sexual slavery. V-Day provides funding to create and nurture innovative programs to stop the violence.
The sentiments are altruistic and thoughtful. But they are co-opting yet another holiday to get their word out. Valentineís Day is now Violence Day.
Sure, the ďeventĒ is meant to take place all year long, which is all well and good, but the bulk of the campaigns and actions are scheduled to coincide with Valentineís Day. The ďVagina WarriorsĒ will be out in full force, trampling on your candy, flowers and paper hearts to make sure you know that your vagina belongs to you
Part of the V-Day campaign involves a traveling show of The Vagina Monologues
, coming to a high school near you. Yes, a high school
. Iím all about sex education and information, but I donít think itís necessary to have some kind of female empowerment festival where women dress up as vaginas and talk to teenagers. Thatís not sex education, thatís feminist brainwashing. One scene - The Little Coochi Snorcher That Could
- involves a description of a teen-aged girl having sex with an older woman, with the ultimate message being that itís a good, nice thing. The 16 year old girl actually says - in one adaptation -, ďif it was rape, it was a good rape.Ē If that was an older man having sex with a teen aged girl, there would be an uproar. So why is it ok to show young girls that having sex with an adult woman while you are under the age of consent is a beautiful thing?
pparently, the The 'V' in V-Day stands for Victory, Valentine and Vagina. Victory over violence is great. But using The Vagina Monologues as the basis for your activism is turning the idea of being in charge of oneís one body into a beat down on men. Why canít one be a strong feminist without hating males? Just as not all women are victims of violence and abuse, not all men are violent abusers. Why does everything have to be black and white? Good or bad? Man v. woman? Why canít I share my vagina and not feel like Iím going to be an affront to all good women if I do? Call me silly, but I thought Valentineís Day is a day to, you know....put your vagina to use with your loving, non-abusive male companion.
While itís nice that these women want to honor people who have done so much for the world struggle with violence against women, being hailed as a Vagina Warrior
probably takes a little pride out of being the reciepient. I can see the entry a high school reunion booklet: Mary Williams: Married, mother of four, CEO of Williams Marketing and a Vagina Warrior
. Hey, thatís funny. Mary was such a prude in high school. I had no idea she was out crusading with her vagina! Heh. Vagina is a funny word if you say it a lot. Right, Beavis.?
m not a big sucker for all the frills and lace trappings of Valentineís Day, but I certainly donít want to see it turned into a day when we eschew the cards and flowers for group sessions dealing with violence and vaginas. There are 365 days in a year. Why do these activists always insist on taking an already existing holiday and turning it into a crusade? Not for nothing, but there are no holidays in August, you know. Maybe we could make August the Official Month of Activism. You can have all your black dot sneaker days and kill your television days and wear your vagina on your sleeve and take back your penis days in one month. Want to celebrate the anniversary of the day Mumia was jailed? Got an idea for a festival honoring Che and Marx? August is your month. Just keep your vagina warriors away from my Valentineís Day.