DJ update: the power of the blog, the power of a nine year old
People sometimes ask me why I post such personal things here. This is why:
After the Fox column appeared, I received an email from an attorney who sent me the exact wording I should use in a letter to the school.
After the JWR column appeared, I received an email from Dawn Pennington of Ribbons of Promise National Campaign to End School Violence. She then had the director of the program email me a brochure the group uses. From that, I used their suggested wording of a letter to send to the school administrators.
I feel I have the situation totally under control now. Apparently, so does DJ.
Last night I asked him how things were going in school and if I needed to take further action with the teacher or principal.
No, I took care of everything.
I took care of it in my own way.
What did you do?
I handled it, mom. It's all good now.
He wouldn't talk further about it, so I decided to let it go for the time being.
I dragged myself out of bed to drive him to school today. I wanted to see for myself.
I walked into the building with him and as we rounded the corner towards his classroom, he waved good-bye and blew me a kiss.
I stood there, lurking around the corner instead of leaving the school. I watched.
Big Bully approached DJ. I tensed. DJ smiled at him. They sat down on the floor in the hallway and BB pulled out his Yu Gi Oh! cards. DJ did the same. They compared cards and laughed and grinned. BB was incredibly impressed with the power of DJ's attack cards, or something like that. I really don't understand Yu Gi Oh! talk.
What I do understand is this is probably temporary. This is not the end of the situation, because I still have issues over how the school handled the whole incident.
What I also understand is that DJ has gained some confidence and a sense of empowerment. Whatever he did, he did it in a way so that the boy was not only nice to him, but seemed to want to engage in a friendship with him. Perhaps DJ just realized that they have a common interest and used that to his advantage.
Even if the friendly moment is fleeting, at least DJ realized that confronting his problems rather than shirking away from them can often times have good results.
We'll see what happens.