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playing the part of the bully is arafat

Thank you everyone for the advice and the support on the post below. I just got off the phone with the principal again, and got nowhere. Again.

I was talking to my boss about this, and we ended up comparing it to the Middle East, to Israel and Palestine. And what is school but a microcosm of politics and the world in general?

During our discussion about Israel (something we discuss often), my boss said that his son is doing a project for school on anti-Zionism and anti-semitism (he goes to a Yeshiva) and was looking for websites where he could find links to news articles and opinion pieces on the subject. Of course, I directed him to Little Green Footballs. I have a feeling Adam will become a fixture there.

Anyhow, this has been a frustrating, aggravating day. I'm closing up shop here and heading home to await a call from DJ's teacher.

I've taken off the kid gloves. I'm about to get mean.

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Chin up... and don't take no shit..

A favorite saying of mine.. Good luck.

grrrrrrrrrr Go kick some ass! Hope you get this all straightened out soon.

My daughter Tam was also picked on from day one, but in her case it was the teacher that set up the bullying. She was of the opinion that Tam didn't belong in her class because she skipped kindergarden, so she would use Tam as a scapegoat for everything, thereby letting the other kids know that it was ok to pick on her. After I went thru the whole calling the teacher/principal/parents of the bullying children, I took a page from a friend of mine, and told the principal that the next time she was picked on, she'd be carrying a baseball bat to school with her instead of her bookbag. Granted, that wouldn't work today, but back then it told the powers that be that we were serious. The other thing that my friend Carla did was to call all of the local news stations, go to the school with a media circus, and chain herself to the principal's file cabinet until her son's bully was transfered to another school. Publicity is a great weasel-motivator.
Hang in there, Michele, you will get your son through this. It will be hard, no doubt, but as long as he has your support, he'll be fine. My kid turned out great, she'll be 20 in a week and is a happy, healthy young adult. Which is more than the bullies will be, ever.

Michele,

Have you tried mentioning the "L" word (liability) to the school? It seems to me that, if after they have been repeatedly notified of the existence of this problem your son were to be seriously hurt (God forbid), then their liability would be extensive. Given that school administrators are some of the most cowardly people on the planet, this might get their attention.

Any comments from lawyers on the board?

Michele,

Have you tried mentioning the "L" word (liability) to the school? It seems to me that, if after they have been repeatedly notified of the existence of this problem your son were to be seriously hurt (God forbid), then their liability would be extensive. Given that school administrators are some of the most cowardly people on the planet, this might get their attention.

Any comments from lawyers on the board?

Hmmm thats not a bad analogy.

The same people that say:
What could (Person being beaten up, picked on, ext) be doing that would drive (Bully) to do such terrible things

Also say stuff like:
What could the Jews be doing that would drive Arabs to do such terrible things

My mother went thru similar problems when I was in school (thank god thats over, college rocks!) Here's hoping you have better luck then she did at getting results.

From personally experience: Nothing is more satifing than reading the police logs and seeing the little sh*t that made your life miserable in school being sent to jail for 10-15 years.

Don't let them forget that while this bully may not cause severe physical harm (and hopefully it won't come to that), the emotional harm has already happened, and is happening. You can get over a broken bone... words and scars from the past don't heal quite so quickly, and can lead to problems in the future, such as being physically removed from school due to emotional distress, lack of motivation to complete schoolwork efficiently, and more serious issues.

Unfortunately, what I've learned is that school administrators really don't give a damn, and won't until you start pushing the threats towards their side of the table. A teacher's job is only to educate in academia, after all sarcasm (note: I had a truly wonderful 2nd grade teacher who I'm still in close touch with today, so there are exceptions to this rule!)

I've been the recipient of bullying from both a student and a teacher... the first one I avoided as much as I could until he dropped out of school. The teacher issue I asked for help from my parents. It was a scarring experience, but I feel confident that you will resolve it in the best way for your son. I wish you the very best of luck.