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first person to say Mrs. Robinson dies a gruesome death

first person to say Mrs. Robinson dies a gruesome death

I had a little episode with a relative tonight. Nothing new there. The subject was me and Justin and it's a subject that has been brought up again and again by certain people. See, there is a huge age difference between Justin and I. I'm 39, he's.....he's in his early 20's. Not a problem for me so it shouldn't be for you, right?

So when the inevitable conversation comes up with these closed-minded relatives, the most repeated question is "What could you two possibly talk about? What in the world do you have in common?" A lot more than I have in common with them, I suppose.

Justin and I were at a restaurant tonight, one of those chain type places with a menu that looks like every other chain-type restaurant, but with different cute names for the burgers. We sat at a booth, next to a table with a couple that looked to be in their 40's and behind another couple that were probably in their 20's. I always notice the conversations of others in restaurants. What I notice most is how a lot of couples don't talk. They sit there, fiddling with their food or glancing at the game on tv, and make small talk every once in a while.

For the hour and half we were there, Justin and I talked non-stop. We started out discussing military tribunals, which led to a discussion about Dick Cheney and George Bush. Somehow we ended up from there detailing all the ways in which Maynard James Keenan is a freak. We had our nightly X-Box/Playstation 2 debate, decided on getting the kids a computer for Christmas, made the decision to get Natalie a tutor, ranted about the state of rock radio in New York, debated which movie role was Gary Oldman's finest moment, and reminsced at lenght about that night three years ago when we first met. In that whole time, the two same-aged couples seated by us said about 2 words to each other.

Our nights and days are always like that. I talk to him from work at least 3 times during the day. We talk before I leave work and as soon as I get home. We lay in bed at night and talk about everything and nothing, we take long drives filled with interesting conversation.

I don't know why people assume that because there is an age difference we would have so little to say to each other. We learn from each other. I thrive off of his youthful enthusiasm for life. He revels in my experiences and takes lessons from mistakes I have made in the past. He acts older than he is. I tend to be a bit immature. He enjoys taking on the role of a sort of step-parent and I enjoy going to comic book stores and concerts. We meet somewhere about halfway, our ages becoming blurred numbers that mean nothing to us.

People who can't understand look at us and see an odd couple. They shake their heads and tell me that it won't last. At first it bothered me. I let it get to me and almost undermine a wonderful relationship. But I look at these people now, the same people who have been saying for 3 years that we wouldn't last a week, and I see people who are stuck in their own dull marriages, people who probably haven't laughed with their spouses in years. I see people I should probably ignore, but for the sake of family peace, I don't. After three years of this, I'm resigned to the fact that it will never change, they will never change, and I will be listening to the same questions for the rest of my life.

I'm so aggravated by all this that I can't end this post with a nice, clean, last line. I'm unable to wrap this one up.

Comments

I noticed something really freaky about your site today. I thought I was going crazy when I read the bottum of the page. You know the grey and bronze(or whatever color that is ) gif. Anyways It attracted my focus for a moment and as I looked at it, it began to shift. Now this isn't a animated gif. Strange, do other people see this or is it just me? It freaked me out at work today. Probobly just my monocular vision but, it kind of bugs me. Oh by the way, I have dated older women. I have had those wierd stares. I just say screw um. Thats hard to do when its family.

f**ck em! Dont even bother answering them when they ask u.Tell them its "non of their business" which it isnt.Or do as i do,when they ask what u guys talk about say "oh we discuss what sexual position we'd like to try next" that should drop their jaws a bit!

:)

Nicole beat me to it -- I was going to say "fuck 'em." You guys obviously have a connection and enjoy each other, so as long as neither of you has issues, then rock on. I hope that I'm able to find someone with whom I'm able to have the great relationship that you & Justin have. Personally, I'm thankful that there's at least one woman out there who doesn't have issues with "younger men" -- I've been turned down for dates by women who are less than a year older than I am, simply because they refuse to date guys who are younger than they are.

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michele, jesus loves you more than you wi...arrrgh, the pain, my faccccccee!!!!!!!!!

I can SO relate to everything you said. Jim and I have the same kind of relationship. There's only one slight difference. He's almost 17 years OLDER than I am. We get the stares in public. I notice the same things you mentioned while in restaurants. I share every feeling with you about this one. At least my family has accepted it and loves him as much as I do. Don't let them get to you, dear. They're just jealous because you have a good life with him and, as you said, they are stuck in a dull and lifeless relationship.

I should clarify that it's not my immediate family I have the problem with. I think my parents like me more than they like him. It's my cousins and aunts that give me grief. Unfortunately, we all live in the same town and spend a lot of time together, so I have to take their shit way too often. But you are probably right, Lee. I'd like to think it's jealousy that keeps them antagonizing me.

I've always found ‘I'm old enough to be your mother’ to be an excellent pickup line... no, seriously, age does not matter if people have a connection. Age seems to matter alot to people who DON'T have connections, & so have plenty of free time on their hands to pry into things that aren't their business. Being happy is the best revenge.

It's amazing to me that people that can't even keep their own shit together feel that it's appropriate to make comments on other people's lives. If they spent as much time analyzing their own relationships instead of yours, perhaps they would have a happy relationship as well.

Just arch one eyebrow and smile wickedly, I say. Most relationships are unhappy, I'm convinced. The one I get, subtly or not-so-subtly, is that my sweet is a waitress and they want to know if that bothers my master's degree ass.

For my part, I am not arrogant enough to question where one finds love because finding it at all is so rare. And ... why would it bother me? F*ck em.

Just arch one eyebrow and smile wickedly, I say. Most relationships are unhappy, I'm convinced. The one I get, subtly or not-so-subtly, is that my sweet is a waitress and they want to know if that bothers my master's degree ass.

For my part, I am not arrogant enough to question where one finds love because finding it at all is so rare. And ... why would it bother me? F*ck em.

Sh*t. I hate when I do that.

Get a Playstation 2, Metal Gear Solid 2 looks da bomb. X-Box probably won't last 2002.

The Professional, has to be. Although he's good in True Romance, but more a cameo than a role.

And Mrs. Robinson, if you don't mind my saying so, this conversation is getting a little strange...

We both agreed on The Professional, though True Romance ran a very close second.

And now you must die.

Just surfing through the web and stumbled upon this post. I, for one, would like to know how things are now that a couple of years has passed.

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